{"id":1397,"date":"2016-10-04T04:53:53","date_gmt":"2016-10-04T04:53:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/girltalk\/?p=40"},"modified":"2020-08-04T21:51:01","modified_gmt":"2020-08-05T04:51:01","slug":"non-threatening-leadership-strategies-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/?p=1397","title":{"rendered":"Non-threatening leadership strategies &#8211; #3 Emailing A Request"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So, like, if you could just hear me out? :):) I really want to make sure I&#8217;m not being confusing \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p>Barf.<\/p>\n<p>This is such a big challenge. I dislike this issue immensely. On one hand, I want emails to be extremely brief because a) I don&#8217;t want to waste anyone&#8217;s time (including mine), b) I prefer brevity because I think it&#8217;s SO much more clear. Here&#8217;s the problem. My experience is that the &#8220;threatening&#8221; version gets ignored, for what I assume is spite because I was &#8220;a bitch&#8221; or because of a &#8220;don&#8217;t you tell me what to do&#8221; thing. BUT &#8230; the &#8220;non-threatening version also gets ignored, i am guessing because the light-hearted pretty-please approach does not get taken seriously. this is very typical of the issues women face, where you can&#8217;t win either way. You&#8217;re bitchy or you&#8217;re too soft, you&#8217;re dressed like a prude or you&#8217;re a slut, you don&#8217;t smile enough or you smile too much.<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"600\" data-attachment-id=\"1412\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/?attachment_id=1412\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/example3c.gif?fit=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"600,600\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"example3c\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/example3c.gif?fit=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/example3c.gif?fit=600%2C600&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/example3c.gif?resize=600%2C600&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1412\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>From: <a href=\"https:\/\/thecooperreview.com\/non-threatening-leadership-strategies-for-women\/\">https:\/\/thecooperreview.com\/non-threatening-leadership-strategies-for-women\/<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So, like, if you could just hear me out? :):) I really want to make sure I&#8217;m not being confusing \ud83d\ude42 Barf. This is such a big challenge. I dislike this issue immensely. On one hand, I want emails to &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/?p=1397\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1397","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-girltalk"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p8xTNS-mx","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1397"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1413,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1397\/revisions\/1413"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1397"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1397"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mynerdyfriend.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1397"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}